"I am so happy you're the ladderballs in my life."
There is nothing that can cause a relationship to suddenly end.
Sure, someone can be caught in the act of doing something wrong that quickly ends
a relationship; but more than likely, whatever they were caught doing took
weeks, months and sometimes years to slowly chip away at what both individuals
had worked so hard to create. I guess what I’m trying to say here is that there
are certain things in a relationship, that if not carefully avoided will inevitable
chisel away at the foundation of your marriage until it crumbles. I would deem
one thing as THE biggest silent killer of otherwise great relationships. It’s
called redundancy.
Think about the first 6 months of your relationship with
your spouse. You can probably count more exciting, adventures and spontaneous things
that you did in that first 6 months than you can in the past couple of years.
This is not a bad thing. We all put our best foot forward when we are in a
dating relationship. If it wasn’t for what happened in the beginning stage of a
relationship most women would probably never settle for their husbands. AND…vice
versa. The problem with this is that it isn’t easy to consistently come up with
new ideas of things to do together, and for the most part it isn’t practical,
especially if there are kids involved.
So back to today’s lunch note…Yesterday I found myself
cleaning up outside after a big Saturday night bash my wife and I threw for
neighbors and family. The back yard was pretty much trashed (mainly because me
and some of the guy’s got a bit to “rowdy.” So there I was trying to breakdown
a 10x10 tent, clean up a bunch of trash and beer cans…when my wife walks up
with our 10 month old on her hip. Now I’m already treading lightly here because
I did get a little out of hand with the guy’s last night. I was totally
expecting her to rag me about staying out until 1:30am, or about the HUGE mess I
had made. Instead she said “How about a break baby?” I was a little taken back,
and then she really through me off when she said “How do you play ladderball?”
Ladderball is this great game where you throw a rope sort of thing at this
ladder, and you keep score. Me and the guy’s had played it most of the night
before, and the game was left out. The next thing you know I’m putting the tent
back up, and showing Heather how to play. For the next 2 hours we sat outside
playing this game, taking turns with the baby in tow. We laughed, talked trash
to each other and just really had the best time. And it came out of nowhere.
As I started thinking about it, it made sense that we had so
much fun because we were doing something new, and we were both enjoying it. If
we aren’t careful we will find ourselves in a rut. Doing the same old things
day in and day out. Routine is healthy, and for the most part a routine is
essential to run a household smoothly. But be careful that you don’t put
yourself, and your family into a revolving door of the same things, day in and
day out. Mix it up a little. Get yourself outside of your comfort zone. Otherwise,
If you leave this door opened boredom will surely settle in. And who knows…you
may find yourself giggling together just like you did in those first few weeks
of dating so many years ago.
OH…and if your curious about ladderball there is a link
below too. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ladder_toss
1 comment:
Fantastic!
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